I’ve often wonder how some parents would allow their young kids to roam the streets on their own. I’ve often wonder .. what these kids are gonna grow up to be. I’ve also often wonder if putting chloe in this school is the right decision but having said that.. we really had no choice.. because it’s zone accordingly, there are no free directories, like in other parts of Canada.. where you can send your kids to a private school if you can afford it.

As a parent, I sometimes wonder - how does these kids survive ..?? how do these parents do it..?? Very often, i hear of parents going out for the nite.. and having a party.. with just about anyone coming to their homes. Yes, I’ll have to admit .. i’m not that popular .. neither is PB. We have very little friends.. and we like it this way. Why..?? mostly, it’s because we are very busy.. and secondly, the investing on the time can be very stressful at times.

As parents, we want our kids to be in the “good crowd” .. but is there a “good” crowd..?? Even the doctor’s kids can bully another doctor’s kid in high school - according to reliable sources. So how do one protect your kids..?? you can’t be with them 24hrs a day.. they have to go to school right..?? Something came to our attention last week about Chloe and one of her school mate - lets just said.. kids can be evil too. As parents, creating awareness is very important. As parents, it’s utmost important to listen to your kids and spend time daily to chat with him or her. It is very important to be there for him or her.. when they need you.

I’m glad that i’m spending more time with Chloe these days.. else i may not have found out what happened of late at school. Of course, as a parent, i do not wish this upon anyone.. therefore, I’m telling all parents out there.. that there are some kids who comes from “different” type of family, therefore, it’s important for you to be vigilant, it’s important that as parents.. we have to open our eyes and ears.. and gently bring across awareness. Working and gaming is important.. but nothing is more important then your kids, should anything happened to your kids.. and you could have prevented it.. by spending less time at work.. and gaming, you would lived to regret it. So dads .. who are into gaming.. spend more time with your kids.. and less them on the computer or console systems.. and moms.. less facebook.. and more time with your kids too. Don’t lived to regret it.. because they are only this age once.

Like any good parents, we noticed things as soon as it happens - just like when Chloe comes back from school with not one .. not two.. but several bruises every week. It almost seems like she gets new one.. even before she had time to fully recover from the last few bruises. Of course, many parents are gonna say.. kids do that… and i most certainly agree with you 100% but that does not mean.. that you let it go.. or ignore it. I never take things like that lightly .. because as a mom. .you have to stay on top of things all the time.

A check with Chloe.. she exclaimed she didn’t know when or where she bruised herself.. but she knew they were from school - i had no doubt about it. So i am taking a picture of the bruises.. and bringing them to the school.. to show her principal or teachers .. that way maybe, they will look out for Chloe more. What would you do..?? if you were I…?? donch forget i’m the helicopter mom… hahahhaa!!

As you all know.. i’m spending a lot more time with Chloe these days, well, truth be told even when we had a babysitter, she was pretty much with us in the store.. with her babysitter.. except for the few hours.. they leave for home twice a week. Or when we had errands to run - so we do encourage Chloe to tell us anything and everything.

So the other day, she came home from school.. and outta no where told us that one of the teacher’s aid told her that .. she doesn’t need to tell her mama everything.. and to go to them.. if she had any problems.. made me frown a little. Oh .. don’t get me wrong.. i’m sure.. the teacher’s aid meant well.. but you know .. Chloe is only a kid.. and they really have to explain .. what exactly, she doesn’t need to tell us.. and in what situation.

Kids at that age is very impressionable.. and i’m afraid.. that Chloe or some other kids.. who might have been told the same.. might end up not telling anyone about anything.. should they get bullied outta school.. or not within the school compound. Or worst.. if they were abused at school by a teacher.. are they not supposed to tell anyone..?? or tell on the teachers who abused them..?? like i said.. i don’t think they meant anything bad - but definition of such must be very, very clearly spell out for the kids.. because if my kid was abused in school - i would definitely want to know. I’m trying not to make a mountain outta a molehill, so i told Chloe and drilled it in her.. that i am her mama .. and i need to know everything.. because there is nothing wrong in telling her mama what happened in school or anywheres. There are a lot of bad ppl out there.. as long as they are not family .. you trust no one.

So your kid comes back home the last couple of weeks complaining that the boy sitting next to her had been kicking her - what do you do..?? Well, we tried to determine if it was accidental or was it on purpose of course. And the kid said.. the other kid just loved swinging his legs. So we let it go.. and told her to speak up.. and ask him to stop kicking her - and if he was still swinging his legs at her.. then she should tell her teacher.

Unfortunately, for us - Chloe seems to have lost her voice when it comes to telling her teacher about things. So a few days ago, she came back with bruises and she thinks that it was because of the kicking - we think it is irritating her more than the bruises. And like any good mummy, we wrote a ” From Chloe’s Mommy” note… to the teacher - telling her that it had to stop - to please assist. Well, you would be pleased to know that her principal called immediately the same day .. the note was sent in. And suggested that we asked Chloe to voice up. And then another note came back from Chloe’s teacher.. that we should encouraged her to voice up too. Now, you would think that they should know this is our last resort .. because if Chloe would voice up .. we wouldn’t have to right the note right..?? So I wrote a note back to the teacher, thanking her .. for dealing with our concerns.. and also let her know that we did encourage chloe but to no avail. What would you have done..??

So the kid had a bad throat that frightened me but she was good nature .. and was still alert and all with no fever. The family doctor didn’t wanna give her any medication.. but come Wednesday.. she was running a temperature and complained that her throat really hurt.

All thru’ the ordeal, she was good nature.. and behaved well.. and took her medication like a trooper. I know of some kids who would scream blue murder when taking medication .. so we pretty much luck in on this area .. and she always didn’t give us much trouble with oral medication. If she was really sick, she would be listless and not wanting to eat much - and that’s about it. She doesn’t really fuss much.. but i get very worried.. and would lose everything .. and start to fumble. Luckily, PB is pretty calm in these situation.. so it balances out.

Well, the babysitter did come on the Tuesday .. limping and in pain .. but not as swollen lips and face as we had imagined. She came for a few hours.. but couldn’t do much .. because she was in pain. So come Wednesday, she was due to babysit again.. and she called to say she was in the hospital .. getting her ribs checked out .. because they were so painful .. she didn’t get much rest the nite before. She didn’t know if she could come to work or not.. and she would call back, while we field her calls by someone looking for her dad at our store. It’s almost like someone hounding you for debt consolidation. But alas, she didn’t call .. and not even on Thursday - but i’m not surprised.

And like always.. we don’t know how sick she is.. nor do we know when she is coming back to work. So here’s the thing - the brat wants the attention .. so we have to stop everything .. to be with her.. and play with her. We love our babysitter.. but at times like that.. we donch think it is fair to my brat nor us .. because we do have a business to run.. and i do have my online work to do. But having said all that .. you and I know.. that our brat comes first.. so what we did..?? like any good parents we stop all the rest of our things.. and took care of a very restless and disappointed kid. *sigh* .. bo pian ahhhhh..!!!!! * pull hair out .. right about now*

As much as we love our babysitter that had been with us for 4.5 yrs.. it can be really disrupting when you are expecting her.. and her mother calls 40mins before she is due to show up. The brat had been waiting for her the whole day.. to show her stuff that she learned in school and her new books, so she was disappointed. And my hope to get some work done when the sitter came.. at 3.30pm is now no longer possible.

As a working parent, we have a very tight schedule.. and if the sitter isn’t around, one of us gotta stop doing stuff.. and be with her. And when I go home with her.. i cook and feed her dinner.. and then get the bath ready .. so that PB can come home and bathe her. And nope.. we stay with her.. chat with her.. read to her.. and you know do stuff and pretty can’t do anything else. As I’m writing right now, PB had taken her out for a walk, which we promised when the sitter arrived.

Plus when the sitter is around, we try to go run some errands, but like today, we have to shelf that too. So yes.. !! it is darn disrupting.. but what can you do right..?? she fell down the stairs ..and hurt herself. How the sitter manages to get into these accidents .. well.. lets say.. your guess is as good as mine..* roll eyes* .. Poor kid..!! but still darn disrupting lor..!!! so yes.. i’m just glad Chloe is old enough for summer camp at the YMCA this summer.. that way, we don’t have to worry if the sitter cannot come, at least the brat gets to do something and at this age, they have to do stuff, plus we really do not encourage watching so much tv.

PS : And PB can’t sneak home to take a shower now because we had to cook for Chloe this morning.

For those who are not aware of this.. yes.. ! i’m diagnosed as having Hypertension. In another words, high blood pressure lah. And i blamed it on the lack of the kind of food i cannot get here. Back home, i cannot remember eating so much instant noodles.. nor burgers .. but here in Canada.. you kinda wanna eat really fast.. and get it over with. Nope .. i don’t need a Mesothelioma lawyers like those who has Mesothelioma of course.. but having said that .. i just want everyone to know.. that migrating is not as fun as everyone thinks. Not only the food is different.. i haven’t ate steam fish for years now - because i cannot find “ang kor li” here.. only fish i can find here are salmons .. and cod fish .. and they are mighty expensive here.. the fresh ones.

This morning .. Chloe decided to have a tummy ache. She said her tummy hurts so much.. she didn’t wanna go to school. Further probing .. we learned that she knew her “boxing friend” was gonna be in school today, so that was the reason why she didn’t wanna go to school. I explained to her.. that I will make sure to remind her teacher about her “boxing friend” and that she could call us immediately if she gets punched again.. and we’ll come pick her up immediately. Then she said.. it was ok.. to go to school. On the way to school, she told us that there was one time.. where her “boxing friend” boxed her face as well - but that was a long time ago. So this was the 3rd time…??

We spoke to the teacher again.. and again she played it down.. and make light of it but yes.. we are gonna be keeping a real close eye on this “boxing friend”

It had been a rather trying week for us last week because Chloe was punched by a classmate in her pre-school on the chest. At first, we didn’t think too much of it.. till in the evening, when we got home.. and got ready to bathe her .. and i saw a slight bruise on her chest. I asked her about it.. and she said.. it was this boy who punched her on her chest.. but she had already told her teacher about it. As parents, we all know that we first have to find out .. whether our own kid had been bad first .. perhaps, Chloe had provoked the boy. But Chloe said “no” .. and i was abit concern because this is not the first time, this kid had done that to Chloe.

Like all parents, we of course want to teach our kid how to protect herself and after much talking about it.. and explaining to Chloe what she had to do in the future should it happen again, my daughter is so kind hearted and refuses to push her bully away .. but insisted that she was gonna run very quickly to her teacher. I know that in every school and in fact in every class in the future,…. my kid may come across a bully or two.. but that does not mean .. that my kid needs to continue to be the victim right..?? And even though her current teacher tried to put it lightly to us.. about the situation .. i am very worried because my daughter is not taught to hurt others.. nor do we condone roughing around. We want to do the right thing.. but as parents we all know the right thing may not be the best thing or the proper thing to help my daughter.. so what would you do.. if you were in my shoes?

The babysitter had a court date that requires me to be a witness. Long story short.. it’s because of her ex-b/f and the ex-b/f’s new g/f. Apparently, this had been going on since they broke up. It was a case of you said what and she said that .. that ultimately led to me believing that the threatening phone call at the store for her.. was from the new g/f.

Like any adult and a sensible one, you want to stop the whole thing/foolishness because it was plain foolishness. But nope the ex-b/f’s mother and buddy and the new g/f donch wanna let it go. So they hurled each other to court. Obviously, we want to side with the babysitter since we’ve known her for 4.5yrs. So i lugged chloe along to court.. and had to close the store for abit .. so that PB can send me to court .. to be the witness of everything.

Whole day wasted .. that’s alright by me.. but the next day.. when i asked the babysitter to cancel her guitar class to let me finish up my work that i didn’t do because i had to go to court.. well, lets just say she didn’t. So i rushed home .. took care of chloe first of course.. and waited till almost midnite.. before i started working on my online assignments.

I wasn’t mad.. but very disappointed lor. oh well.. kids. I have to remember have the tidak apa attitude from now on. I told PB to smack me hard on the head.. the next time.. i try to do good for anyone and yes i was late for my assignments and i’m never late. So the advertiser had flagged me and won’t be giving me so much assignments no more.

My babysitter is sick again..!!! in between her technical and vocational schools guide for her university application .. and a court case.. with regards to her ex-b/f .. i think she must have had been stressed out again. But having said that.. all our plans went topsy turvy.. and plus we had to deal with some stupid “ang moh” customer .. who thinks that they can scam us. Long story.. but what a tiring week.

I had PB’s tuxedo out for the hospital gala’s - a huge event here in our small town. As small business owners… and just about anyone living here, we feel that it is very important.. that we are involved in charitable work. But at the end of March.. yesterday ..we had snow on the ground.. !!!!!! *slap forehead* .. ! when is the warm coming..?? I promised myself to write this down.. so i know.. and wouldn’t hope too much for the sun.. and warm next year. The weather is crazy here.. one day warm.. and one day snow.. or raining. Suxs big time..!

Poor Chloe .. woke up at 1.40am with the same kinda nightmares again..! this time.. it wasn’t so long the crying.. but PB carried her and walked her around.. the whole time. She then want to stay in the tv room tonite..so PB gotta sleep on the couch with her. Bummer..!

With Chloe being so sick for so long, I had wished that I was the one sick instead of her. And guess what..?? after 8 months of having my hysterectomy done.. and an emergency laporoscopic surgery due to bowel obstruction (so they said) .. i started spotting today. Of course, that freaked me right out.. afterall, where is the blood coming from right..?? Of course, i went into a paranoia mode.. which is understandable. So be careful what you wished for eh. I will update all about my situation .. in the meantime, i am just taking it easy. And yes, i have an appt .. to see my “new” gynae .. on the 17th Mar.

Yes.. 4 nites in a row.. and i’m still on the floor. But last nite.. was the last..!!!! my back screams for help..!!!!!! Yes.. ! each nite.. she would wake up at 3.48am.. and give me all sorts of excuses. The first nite.. i can understand.. because she was all stuffed up.. but last nite.. was pure silliness. I really donch mind sleeping on the floor.. if it wasn’t so cool.. and drafty on the floor.. or if it wasn’t so hard on my back. Nope.. i donch have a single mattress to lay down.. therefore.. it’s hard. We’ll see what happens tonite.

Chloe just can’t seems to shake off that fever and sniffles. She came home from Ciarra’s birthday.. and started having the sniffles.. that developed into a low grade fever overnite. Stayed up half the nite.. because she couldn’t breathe properly .. thus disturbing her sleep.. and couldn’t get up on time.. to go to school. We gave her some medication.. stayed at home.. for half a day .. and went to the store for just a bit. Poor gal..!!

Yes..! i got kicked to the floor to sleep by the brat of course. She woke up at 3.48am.. and wanted to sleep in my bed. After much coaxing .. still she wanted to go to my bed.. so i let her.. but an hour later.. found her kicking me and pushing me to the very end of the bed.. and i gave up .. and got up. I landed on the floor .. sleeping on her make shift bed instead .. for the rest of the night.. without much rest. I guess if this carries on.. i won’t need any weight loss pill to stay slim eh.

Keegan our babysitter turned into a pink head a few days ago, she had gone to “evil” S*** to get her hair done. Remember the gal who was working for us some few years ago, and quit. The one who showed her bum on the WWW, anyway .. i digress.

The first time Keegan came back with her new hair colors it was disastrous.. we could see that Keegan was almost in tears. Yah.. she did look pretty dull with the first hair color, then she went back.. and got this color done.. when she was still on recovery from her flu last week. This does look a lot better than the first time she came back with the other hair color.. but still not as desirable as the old stylist she used.. Corey .. i think her name is. But young girl .. like Keegan, they dare to try everything.. which is good lah. I just applaud her for being so brave to use “evil” S*** because she is pretty new with the hair thingie. And by this town standard, she charged exorbitant price ..!!! ouch!!

PS : A picture of evil S***, popped up on the computer today.. and I asked Chloe if she remembered who she was.. she said yes.. but why did she turn evil chloe asked. In which I replied, she was evil all along.. but we just didn’t know before. We’ve made such bad choices with our ex-employees.. and vowed never to hire again .. after evil gal left and truth be told.. we never felt so blissful.