I received this message on my expat blog profile, but helen, i’m unable to reply because you have not email address. You can write to me.. on my contact on this blog, else you can leave a comment here. Migrating is a huge thing, I’ve been thru’ it. .and I want to help as much as possible. I’m no expert.. but can only share my experiences with others. For those who are thinking of migrating.. feel free to ask me any questions. So Helen .. contact me.. because you need to.. ! I usually do not post your questions here.. but since you are 3 months pregnant.. it’s important.. that we speak quickly.

Hi, I am a Singaporean, applying for Canada immigration now. Just got the medical exam done. I am currently 3 months pregnant. Can you advise me on whether go Canada and deliver, or deliver in Singapore then go Canada? What are the charges if I deliver in Canada? Thanks.
by Helen on 01/07/2009 at 21:10:42

As you all know we had a little mishap last year with Chloe’s school and we had to pull her out. Looking back, I wished the teachers there would have given her a chance as she was only 4.5 yrs old. Given that her teacher was new and all .. but still i felt that she had wasted half a year.. else she would have graduated from Grade Primary instead of Pre-school. On the other hand.. we should have put her in pre-school when she turned 3.5 ? Oh well, this fall would be better .. because she will no longer go to a french class but a normal english class. As parents… we only want what is best for the kid eh. And as you can see .. the daddy was beaming all because she loves to eat pea -he calls her the pea monster. One thing for sure is we will never miss out on any event concerning the brat.

So the babysitter announced today that she wasn’t leaving town to do her college in PEI but instead she was gonna do an upgrade in a local college in town.. and then had up to Dalhousie next year for her nursing course. Of course, we are happy.. not only because we didn’t lose a sitter.. but because this is the right way to do it .. and I had been telling her this for 2 yrs now. Why she finally came to the decision .. i donch know.. but i know for sure.. she is not gonna be in so much debt.. if she did it this way.. when she is done with her nursing course.. and be a real nurse. And yes.. tha’ts Jessica and Chloe playing at the waterfront. We try to keep them occupied at all times.. and not let her sit at the store.. and watch tv… because you and I know.. that kids need the exercise.. and needs mental stimulation. So watching tv.. and sitting around becoming a couch potato is not our way of bringing up a healthy kid.

So we finally bought our patio set from my favorite store in town. It was on sale.. and it was a no tax day. For those who are not aware of this, in Canada - taxes are like 13% - pretty high in my opinion.. for a place where one can get a new landed property for as low as $125K as compared to home of $1.3 million. Back home where the standard of living is higher.. the GST we paid were mostly included in the price that we see .. and only at 3%.

Why did we wait so long to get the patio set..?? because we are pretty el cheapo.. and only feel that we will only buy things at the right price.. and not necessary the right time. So PB put it together.. one evening when it was really hot in the house. Glad the man is very handy .. and can do stuff like this on his own. Oh.. and special thanks to Uncle Jerry for helping us bring the patio set home from Superstore.

So Father’s Day came and went - we didn’t do much.. except go out and eat at Jungle Jim’s .. because they were really value for money and Chloe likes that she gets a toy at the end of her meal. We never celebrate Father’s Day .. when I was a kid… because the father was never home .. he was busy with his concubines.. like my mother would say.. muahahhaha!!!

Which brings me to evaluate my relationship with my father.. and Chloe with hers. PB does almost everything for the brat. From reading to her.. bathing her.. and putting her to bed.. and feeding her medication .. because i’m not good at measuring stuff. My daughter is certainly blessed.. because her father.. is definitely different from mine. Is PB a good father..?? DEFINITELY ..!! he brings her everywhere he goes.. and never leaves her alone .. and if he was gonna game or anything.. it had to be when she was asleep. He doesn’t smoke.. doesn’t drink.. and never buy more things for himself .. than the brat. In everything he does.. the kid comes first. He carries her everytime and everyday.. from the day she was born till now. Put drops in her ears.. put vaseline on her upper lips.. when she has a cold.. cut her nails.. washes her hair - well just about everything.

Chloe cannot ask for a better father.. and I cannot ask for a better spouse. Thank you daddy, for being the best ever daddy..!

I’ve been productive this week, besides preparing for Chloe’s end of her school week next week and a PJ party at her school, concert next week and father’s day celebration, i also had my blood test done and gone to see the results. But I also had to look after Chloe on my own this week because the babysitter was sick for a few days. I had lots of assignments from my favorite advertiser and i finished up my website i was comissioned to do for the Chinese restaurant. Why is Chloe in the torque..?? we were spring cleaning her old clothings.. and had put them in the box to giveaway.. but Chloe wanted it back.. so she wore them to show me that the torque still fit ..! Yes..!! right when we are going into summer .. hahahahha!!! So yes.. it was a productive week.. and the store was busy too..!!

PS : I’ve also updated this blog with a new theme for a summery look.

The beauty of life is basically up to you - some asked how i make it in a small town with no food .. and no high rise shopping centers and one or two crazy ppl around. But you know what..?? I have a great spouse and a wonderful daughter.. and great extended families here and many good friends/relatives.. a great babysitter albeit she is sick and gets into accidents when i need her the most but she is pretty much a trustworthy and good gal and many good customers. This is how i look at it - the beauty of life is you, you and your family is all that matters. Does it matter how others look at you ..?? I don’t really care pretty much. My conscience is clear, we make an honest living, not on welfare of any kind. But i cannot stand idiosyncrasies and ppl who are pretty much “stupid” and insist on making a mountain outta a molehill - those i just stay away and cut them outta my life very quickly and swiftly. So yes, my bottom line is..?? you are happy if you want to be .. and life is too short to waste on silly stuff. I plan to look at the good side of ppl and bright side of things.. what about you ..?

We’ve always taught chloe to be thrifty and the value of money but also how nice it would be if one was generous. A few months ago, Chloe gave away her baby tricyle that her grampie had bought for her to the babysitter’s niece because we were spring cleaning. Chloe had generously given her very nice tricycle - not the one in the picture .. just because she wanted to do something nice for that toddler - although we can definitely sell it at our store for at least $20. But since she wanted to give it away.. we didn’t stop her either.

So when it came to this old dingy and dirty looking tricycle that we had bought for her ..at a yard sale for $10, we had thought nothing about it.. and wanted to give it away too. But this time, she didn’t wanna even let someone have it.. *roll eyes* .. and insisted that she can still ride on it. Why the change of heart..?? I’m guessing it had to be the bad experienced that we had with the babysitter’s niece’s parents “a-hole” experience. You think the kid is too young to understand..?? i think not. Chloe is very sensitive to this kinda things.. she picks up.. on things like that.. and she doesn’t even want to have anything to do with “certain” ppl. So be very careful how you behave in front of your kids.. they pick up all too quickly.

Chloe went for her orientation yesterday at her new school. The one that she is starting in .. this fall. It is nearer to our home.. and this time round, she wouldn’t be in French immersion. We didn’t have much success in the other school .. and because of that… not only is Chloe having a kind of a phobia with the previous school .. we are having it too. But like PB said.. we are not subjecting the kid to anymore traumatic experiences… like the ones she had last year and no more looking for best diet pills either for me… muahahahah!!! We feel extremely sad that the first school that Chloe went to, turned out this way but on the other hand.. one cannot lived in the past forever.. and learn to move on.

The orientation went a lot easier this year for us .. then it did last year. The anxiety was there.. but not as bad as last year. Chloe took the orientation like a champ… and impressed her new teachers.. as well as her principal. The principal came up to shake our hands.. and introduce herself.. and said to us that Chloe was absolutely lovely and cute. But this year .. we are also taking a step backwards.. and I’m trying not to be too enthusiastic as i was last year.. with Chloe previous school in terms of fund raising and so forth.

We asked Chloe at the end of orientation if she wanted to go to her new school.. she said yes.. because she loves Mrs H. The school has a no touch policy.. but we approached Mrs H.. that it is ok by us.. if chloe needed some hugging or touching.. we have no problem with it at all. Mrs H. is like a grandmother .. and i have full trust in her. The hands off policy is good.. but in situation when the kid is this young.. i think we have to play by ear.. and go with what the kid needs. Last year.. at Chloe’s old school.. she was bawling her eyes out.. but they won’t even hold her hands.. to comfort her. Anyhow.. i’m pretty happy about what i’ve seen so far.. one can only hope for the best eh. Plus, Chloe wanted me to take pictures of her .. outside her school.. for her “Kai Mah” .. i’ll upload it later tonite.. i left it at home.. and didn’t bring my key.

Like any good parents you want to nurture your kid and teach them the best you know how and also go beyond and above your own self righteousness to recognize what is the right thing for your kids. So if the brat loves painting, we encourage her to paint. She wants to paint on paper, we buy her paper; if she wants to paint on a glass shelf in the store, we said yes as long as it is the side that doesn’t block the display for our customers.

You also give her a stool so that she is comfy when she is doing it, and some paint and brushes and water and paper towels. But of course she has to do it quietly and not paint beyond that piece of glass panel that we allowed her to paint. We are also prepared to help her clean up, but she has to clean up on her own too when she is done because we want to teach her responsibility and we want to teach her that the world does not revolve around her alone.

As a parent it is easy to want to do everything for your kids, but time and again we have to remind ourselves to step back and let her do her thing. Give her the freedom, enjoy her creativity and of course encourage and tell her it’s alright if she didn’t paint it just right - it doesn’t have to be perfect as long as she tries and gives it her best.

As parents it is in our instincts to protect our own and jump and claw at anyone who might suggest that your kid is less than perfect. But wait a minute; are you doing it because you are insecure? Or are you really protecting them? Chloe has been obsessed lately with one kid in her class, it seems she wants to seek approval from this kid, and she talks of her a lot even after school. She would say things like ” Jenny says polka dots isn’t pretty” or “Jenny said I’m not Hannah Montana” or sometimes she would even say “Jenny squashed my face 2 times today”. So like any good parents we assured her we would talk to Jenny and the teacher.

But wait a minute, while you are doing that are you also monitoring your own kid? It’s easy to see the fault of another kid, right? Afterall, our kid is always an “ANGEL” NOT! It’s hard to admit that your kid isn’t an angel either because they are kids. And like any good parents you have to realize it and not fuel that “little tiff” they seems to be having with someone or other. Why? Because your angel might think that this is the way the world should be, that everyone must like her or else THE LIGHTNING GOD!

You and I know the world is not this way and the sooner you explain it and put the right message across to your kid - the sooner the bratty behavior will stop.

So today, when Chloe said “Jenny did this and that” I told her that the next time she wants to talk about Jenny she should do it in front of Jenny, that way Jenny can defend herself and explain her side of things. I’m sure I told Chloe that Jenny’s mother may have a word or two for Chloe too. And guess what? She stopped talking about Jenny. Like I said, as a parent it is up to me to do right by my own kid because what we teach them now is what they are going to be in the future.

If I had continued to let Chloe go on and on and condone her behavior, what kind of teenager or young adult will my kid be in the future? One who is engrossed with petty stuff? Or a well rounder who can be nonchalant about nonsense? Before you speak to another parent or kid it’s important that you do the right thing by your kid first - because no matter how young or old your kid is, what you teach her or him is going to impact them for the rest of their lives. If you think that your petty thinking isn’t going to grow on your kids, and turn their minds and thoughts into undesirable characters, as good parents we better think again. Of course, bad parents don’t have to think. You want what is best for your kid but if you want your kid to be known as a fighter cock or a sore loser or a crazy son-in-law or daughter in law, go right ahead and teach them to belittle other people or beat up their boyfriends so that they would be good to them. Good parenting begins at birth, good parenting begins with you the parent, good parenting never stops. It is ok to teach your kid that not everyone needs to like them and it’s ok to teach your kid to be the bigger person. It’s also ok to teach your kid not to sweat the small stuff. But wait a minute, don’t be disillusioned and take it that your kid is never wrong because good parents nurture, encourage, compliment and most importantly know how to not fight with another kid because you are the PARENT! You have to teach your own first, after all, isn’t your kid’s welfare the most important here? And remember, your actions speak a lot about yourself too. Lesson to be learned by yours truly.

Yes.. ! it’s that time of the year to exercise your rights. Last year.. i voted for the first time.. for the town councils election.. and today.. i’m going to vote for the provincial election. It had been a busy week already for us .. yesterday .. PB and I went for our eye examination.. but for me.. i had to take extra examination like x-rays and stuff.. because i have diabetes. The Ophthalmologist that i went to.. Dr Robichaud was extra careful.. and referred me to an eye specialist .. because there was a small shadow behind my eyeballs. But i already have a referral to Dr Wahji by my family doctor since last week.. but yet to hear from them. Nothing to worry about .. i’m sure.. they just wanna be very careful.

Tomorrow.. Chloe is getting her pictures taken for school .. and then on the Friday is her new school orientation. Next week, another busy week.. with Chloe’s school pajamas breakfast party, followed by another appt with my family doctor.. to review my blood test - that i’m taking tomorrow (no i’m not sick, they wanna be sure.. i’m alright.. since it’s my one year anniversary since my huge surgery last year). Yes.. busy .. busy .. busy.. !! and yes.. getting the Digby store ready too.. for the summer .. darn busy..!!!! can die..!!!!! plus got online work to do.. *slap forehead* .. but what to do right..?? got so many fans… Ok.. gotta run.. Keegan is here.

I was sharing some pictures and stories with some blogging friends on FB yesterday.. and this morning.. i received these pictures.. as to what we can do .. about “siow ren”. I think it is therapeutic .. muahahhahaha!!! afterall, our forefathers didn’t invent this for nothing eh. In fact, I know you all agree with me.. because not only 1 of you .. suggested it .. but quite a few.. muahahahha!!! so please join me.. in this awesome activity : ta siow ren !

“Ta lei-ke sei yan thou, ta lei-ke sei yan hau!
Ta lei-ke sei yan keok, ta lei-ke sei yan sau!

How about that? Muahahahah!!! fun eh..??? You can help me to ta kau kau this siow ren… for a million year. Anyone game..??

For those who are not aware of this, this blog does have advertisers who pays for page views. So those who visit my blogs and view as many page as possible, I really gain from it. Today my page views soared and I’m darn happy about it lah. Why…?? Because the advertisers will be paying me quite a few extra dollars for it muhahahahahaha!!! Your inability to let go and move on, is your own bitterness and a financial gain to me. For those who are obsessed with finding and reading all my blogs.. I urge you to continue to be obsessed lol. I LOVE IT! Oh btw, special people get special blogs dedicated especially to them. I’ve got 30 working blogs, I kid you not - find them all if you can.. muahahahahhaha!!!!

Chloe is 5.5 yrs old now.. and she is into a lot of things, like all good parents, we want to make sure that she is an all -rounder. We wanna make sure she eats well, learn the right stuff, stay healthy and also make the right choice, even though she is only 5.5.

So she just started swimming a few weeks ago and loves it and one can only hope that she will continue loving such a healthy sport and since summer is round the corner, I am hoping that this year, we can do a lot more with her than we did the previous years. We are going for movies and letting her do other stuff with her babysitter.. and she seems to be getting a better grasps of expressing herself too. Luckily, in this age and time, we have digital camcorders to help us to record her every milestones and every achievements as well as other things. I bet my mom would be really disappointed that she didn’t even owned a camera thing - for those things were expensive some 50 yrs ago.

We all know that parenting is not just about telling you kid from right and wrong.. and feeding her with some milk everytime she cries right..?? Nope..!! when you have a 5.5 yrs old.. and an active one at that.. you have to get active.

We keep a ball in our car all the time.. so that she can have fun with it.. and even just throwing the ball and catching it is fun for her. We get hours of fun with just that - in fact in doors.. in the winter.. with her grammie. In the summer, you can go for treasure hunt for feathers, snails and flowers.. and in my brat’s case.. she goes hunt for blueberries.. and strawberries. We also let her ride her bike and scooter around the neighborhood stores or to Frost park. And we let her dance and sing alot even when i am doing my dishes. She loves the dancing.. and the putting on the piano. Andd of course .. swimming just started with her babysitter .. every saturday.. and we try not to disappoint her.

As much as we love our babysitter that had been with us for 4.5 yrs.. it can be really disrupting when you are expecting her.. and her mother calls 40mins before she is due to show up. The brat had been waiting for her the whole day.. to show her stuff that she learned in school and her new books, so she was disappointed. And my hope to get some work done when the sitter came.. at 3.30pm is now no longer possible.

As a working parent, we have a very tight schedule.. and if the sitter isn’t around, one of us gotta stop doing stuff.. and be with her. And when I go home with her.. i cook and feed her dinner.. and then get the bath ready .. so that PB can come home and bathe her. And nope.. we stay with her.. chat with her.. read to her.. and you know do stuff and pretty can’t do anything else. As I’m writing right now, PB had taken her out for a walk, which we promised when the sitter arrived.

Plus when the sitter is around, we try to go run some errands, but like today, we have to shelf that too. So yes.. !! it is darn disrupting.. but what can you do right..?? she fell down the stairs ..and hurt herself. How the sitter manages to get into these accidents .. well.. lets say.. your guess is as good as mine..* roll eyes* .. Poor kid..!! but still darn disrupting lor..!!! so yes.. i’m just glad Chloe is old enough for summer camp at the YMCA this summer.. that way, we don’t have to worry if the sitter cannot come, at least the brat gets to do something and at this age, they have to do stuff, plus we really do not encourage watching so much tv.

PS : And PB can’t sneak home to take a shower now because we had to cook for Chloe this morning.

PB is very witty .. ! that was one of the reason why I fell in love with him and came all the way from Asia. An example of his wittiness below :

See lah..!! can die or not..!!

Yes..! the brat can get sassy if she wants and I’m sure every parent can attest to the same situation .. and what do parents do .. when your kid gets sassy..?? Well, we were grocery shopping when she insisted on carry a bag of groceries .. and not even to the door she said .. it was too heavy.. and it was gonna break her arms. So we said to the brat.. that if she wanted to eat.. then she would have to help carry no..?? Her reply..??? “FINE! I’ll carry it.. and have a broken arm.. when i get home!” *slap forehead* See lah..!!! sassy or not..?? I can find appetite suppressants but why don’t someone make medication such as sassyness suppressants..???

On Saturday.. when i woke up .. i received a comment on chloe’s blog saying that the babysitter’s niece who was in Chloe’s blog .. that she was a “HAPPY” kid. I asked the sitter if she knew .. that person.. and apparently it was the sitter’s brother’s woman. I didn’t really think much about it.. and wrote on chloe’s blog. .that it was funny that an adult of 20yrs old.. would fight with a 5.5yrs old kid blog and what was written on it. I should give her a cash drawer to put all her grievances in .. like i give chloe a dream box .. to put her bad dreams in. Muahahhahaha!!!! childish..!!

Please bear in mind that Chloe’s blog is about her friends. .and her growth.. and not to be used to put anyone down. If i wanted to do that.. i would do it in my other blogs. Anyhow, to cut the story shout .. the sitter’s brother demanded that i take the picture down .. and what i wrote about his woman. *roll eyes* and at this point.. i was really tickled by all the commotion. Of course, a simple, “please can you take it down just for me.. so that my woman wouldn’t go crazy” would have been enough.. but nope.. he told me to “F*** OFF!” . Such a nice young man - father, son and b/f and brother. If he could say that to me.. over the phone, you can imagine .. what kind of fine character this person is.

He hung up on me. .and insisted that I called his woman a bad mother .. because I had wrote that the poor kid was in the playpen looking sad. OH MY GOD..!!! any kid in the playpen would look pathetic.. if they were there for a long time..!!!!! and if she wasn’t a bad mother.. why get so worked up.. for nothing..?? You can call me a bad mother for all you want.. just look at my kid.. and you will know.. what kinda mother I am. Likewise, when anyone look at her kid.. well.. they are entitled to think whatever they want. If i thought she was a bad mother.. i would have instigated her b/f’s parents to kick her fat butt out.. and fight for the custody of the kid. If i thought that she was a bad mother.. I would have reported her to the necessary department. *shrug* but after all the above.. i am so glad.. we saw their true colors.. !!!!! can you imagine.. letting my chloe grow up with ppl like that.. ???? parents who uses vulgar languages so freely..??

Thank God..!! we never have to talk to them ever again. .or have anything to do with them .. ever again. My kid is never going anywhere near them, we don’t want to be associated to such character, would you..?? We are not that “type” of parents, plus we all know where this relationship will end up. The kid was only 17 or 18 yrs old when she got pregnant - that must say a lot for this person, don’t you think. The sitter’s brother used to be such a nice kid.. but after his association with “some” ppl.. he took a 360 degree change - which in my humble opinion is the saddest thing in any parents life. 5 yrs from today.. I’m gonna revisit this post.. and i’ll let you know.. where they are all at. I am not always right.. but i’m seldom wrong .. and from what i’m seeing.. it’s just not good. Having said all that, they are definitely outta our system.. and our lives - good riddance of bad rubbish.

And yes.. this is what i think of him.. so if i say butthead.. you all know who i am talking about lah.. !! and by the way, if i had thought she was a bad mother, i would have told her that the chinese tattoo she had after her daughter’s name.. was tattooed wrongly and it meant B.I.T.C.H. and not what she think it meant. I could be mean too .. but why should i.. right..?? afterall, it is her child and not mine.. she would be ill treating - if she was. *shrug*

As parents we want to give the best to our kids, not only in material things.. but in health and socially. And holding her back in her swimming lessons.. and others.. was the hardest we had to make.. but we know that we want what is best for her. Chloe is so excited about her swim.. she was trying out her swimming cap with Keegan her babysitter. We did luck in on Keegan.. because she does a lot of things with Chloe.. but after 4.5 yrs.. in a small town .. there really isn’t much they can do.. especially if the weather is bad.

Chloe went for her first swim today.. and she loved it.. can’t wait till next week to go again - she said. I loved that she is so adorable..and yet knows that mama is upset with some peanut brains of this town. Yes.. ! that one.. i’m sure you all know who i’m talking about. But luckily, I have Chloe and supportive family and friends.. and all my blogging friends and fan.

We don’t get to do a lot of things with Chloe.. but as the weather gets warmer.. and if it is the weekend.. PB and I try to do stuff with her.. like the library or going for walks.. or visiting friends.. and of course.. the playground. Yes, we don’t just push everything to Keegan to do.. we do stuff with Chloe too.. because she would rather do stuff with us.

So off to the library we went this weekend.. but we weren’t there for long since we had to go swimming later. Chloe loves to draw and color .. as soon as we got into the library .. she sat and colored. The next time.. i’ll bring my lappie with me.

Chloe telling me.. i have to be quiet… muahahahhaa!! who’s the mother eh..??

We never let Chloe go swimming till this year because we felt that she was too young.. before now. She had a swimming costume before from her grammie.. but it is too small now.. so we had to get her a new one. She chose the pink one of course..!!! and cannot wait to try it out.. show off. She was so hyped up about going swimming the next day.. it was cute..! Did she have fun..??? check out the next post eh.

What a cutie pie right..??

Yes..!! i try to get Chloe involved in whatever I am doing. Rather than to have her watch tv.. while i was doing my dishes.. i asked her to help me mop the floor. You and I know.. she wouldn’t be doing a “clean” job.. but what does it matter.. if she was happy to help.. and i made her feel important.. that she helped mummy. I think by teaching her all these good values.. can only make her a better person.. and by doing these.. she will start young and learn that the house needs to be kept clean.. and that not only mummy and daddy must do housework, so does she.. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. So while i do the dishes after dinner.. Chloe helped me clean the floor. Cute or not..??

Building confidence in your child is very important and we never over indulge Chloe. She won’t eat the piece of chocolate if we said no.. but she would whine. And she wants to be Hannah Montana.. but we tell her .. she is just as good if not better than Hannah Montana. But we will still give her fake hair to put on .. to be Hannah Montana. We don’t believe in buying lots of materialistic stuff for her. .and then leave her to play on her own. That’s the reason why .. we hired Keegan to help with playing with Chloe. If i’m ever on the computer.. someone is there to play with her.. be it PB, Keegan, Gary or her Grammie. Chloe is never left on her own - being a mother is darn easy… but being a good mother.. now that’s the tough one. And my only wish is to be a good mother.. and that Chloe not only grow up healthy.. but confident.. and a good and useful person to the society. Isn’t that what all good mothers want..?

Godma Lynn came for a short visit .. about a week. She left this morning.. and headed out .. to embark in her new job.. actually a lateral transfer..?? Anyhow.. Chloe saw her Godma Lynn twice.. and twice was short visits. Chloe asked me .. how come Godma.. didn’t play with me.. in the park.. they just sat on the bench… *roll eyes*. I think the kid is kinda disappointed. We tried to explain to her.. that Godma has a lot of ppl to visit too.. not only her. But Chloe replied.. “BUT SHE IS MY GODMA!!!!” *slap forehead*

These days Chloe wants to be Hannah Montanna, in fact, she wants us to call her Hannah Montanna Chloe. She wants to be Hannah so much.. that she asked for a blonde wig… and since we won’t get her one.. she pestered her babysitter - Keegan.. to buy highlight gel for her. *slap forehead*. And so she did.. the gel cost Keegan $13 .. and something cents.. *slap forehead* .. of course we paid Kate back lah.. ! poor kid.. earn so little.. still gotta spend money on the brat.

Does she look like Hannah Montana..??

Long time friends of this blog had been asking me why I don’t link shows no more. You can email me.. for the full version of the story. But remember.. you have to be real friends.. and not some random ppl that happen to pass thru’. No time to answer everyone lah.. you know right..?

My very first hand made Mother’s Day gift .. from Chloe made from school. And yer know what.. that girl can keep a secret..!!! muahahahha!!! i didn’t get to see this till Sunday.. on Mother’s day.. so cute right.. ?? on the back of the handprint.. it said.. something about remembering .. how small her hand is.. when she grows up. Hahaha!! so touching.. She will always be my baby gal. Still gotta go find a stand to stand this up.. My very first hand made gift - Motherhood is priceless.. especially when you have such a precious kid.

A few days ago, I wrote .. and wonder if my Chloe has horns.. remember..?? This morning .. a check with the regular teacher.. and the child involved.. we found out that Chloe was telling the truth. *Phew* .. darn relief lah..!!! As mothers .. we donch wanna think that our angels can get evil.. but if for some reason .. they are.. then we have to nip the problem at its bud . .no..?? I love my daughter .. but if she was learning .. or behaving wrongly, it is best to make it right now. I don’t want to be like some parents whose kids sells stuff at our store.. and blame us for buying them, instead of telling their kids not to sell the stuff. How would we know .. if they are allowed to..??? we always try calling .. if the kid is below 16 .. but if kids can have sex legally at 14 here.. what makes these parents think that selling their games or consoles are illegal..?? And like the parents of those who are into drugs .. and instead of sending them to a drug rehab, they blame the traffickers. *slap forehead*

Anyhow, I’m pleased to inform friends and family .. that my kid is not a bully nor does she have horns. Moral of the story - don’t panic, find out the real story and then act accordingly. If your kid is really evil, then you have to get a saw and saw off the horns.

I am a mother for 5.5 yrs now. And I know being a mother is truly not easy but one that gives out unconditional love. Whatever I do, I do it for my kid first and I’m sure that alot of mommies out there are this way too. This generation of kids are the most blessed if I may say so.

I come from a generation where my mom thinks that boys are more important and that supporting me thru’ college was unnecessary. I don’t blame my mom for thinking and behaving this way .. because that was how she was brought up too. I grew up in a generation where my mom would search our entire house .. to find our diaries just to see what we were up too. I grew up in a generation where my mom said many harsh and vulgar words to me .. when i was growing up. I grew up with a mom who only wants to hear the good stuff and never the bad. And if anything went bad.. it had to be the “girls” fault. Many of you out there.. may have experience this kind of treatment .. because of our different culture . .and generation .. and our education background.

I grew up with a mom who thinks that the best thing a daughter can do is to marry someone rich, very young - so that she doesn’t need to take care of us anymore - not her problem anymore (her exact words). Do i hate my mom..?? nah.. ! But it sure taught me something.. that if i wanna have a kid.. than i must never treat her the way i was treated - as easy as buying a micro sd card. Pretty straight forward eh. I don’t hate my mom .. but please stop being stupid and stop asking me if my mom knows about my life in Canada nor had she made an attempt to contact me here or the other way around. Especially those who knows me .. and knows that I never talk about my family except this one in Canada (pb and chloe).

And to all good mommies out there.. Happy Mother’s Day.

Going for walks with Chloe beats going on the treadmill , that’s for sure. I just wished the weather warm up quicker, so that we can do it more often. Having said that, most importantly, these walks tire the lil’ brat out, so that she will go to bed .. at about 10.30pm.. without too much fussing. If she coops up in the store the whole day because of bad weather.. she doesn’t get to do much, and therefore don’t get to spend her energy anywheres. And yes, that’s me an chloe ..