A few months ago - I happen to chance upon a childhood friend from 30 yrs ago - on Facebook. At first I wanted to add him onto my Facebook friend list but I stopped myself. Why? I checked out his info and pictures and his wall and he is happily married with 3 children and even though I haven’t seen him for a good 20 yrs - I don’t really know if his wife would like it very much. We were childhood friends and attended the same church together - I left to UK to finish my school and he left for USA to finish his. We kept in contact when we were in school - but I was really busy - trying to juggle work and school work - and usually he wrote more than I - we drifted apart.

When I arrived home to Singapore - he met me at the airport - with his fiancee (now his wife) - i guess to introduce us? And no - i wasn’t in love with him - we went out once ! hhahahah!! and I was only but 18 at that time. He wanted to hold my hands and I said no - hahahah! he was like a friend - more like my mother’s friend kid. My life at that time was pretty simple - i just wanted to finish school and survive but I knew at 18 - he wasn’t the man I wanted to fall in love with. Why? Too old-fashioned - too “chinese” with lots of old fashion ideas - like the wife needs to be able to cook and stay home after having kids - stuff like that.

So why I didn’t wanna connect with him? because I had told him - when i fall in love - it will be forever - and he wasn’t the right guy for me. Why he brought his fiancee to the airport to pick me up - hahahha!! i have no idea. But looking at his wife’s pictures now on his FB - i wonder if his wife is his mother or his wife? yes - she looks really oldddddddd… !! not being mean or anything - but i figured if we did connect - his wife might not like it so much. What do you think?