March 31, 2008
A Plea To All Bloggers With Kids
I am NO saint, I’ll have to let you all know right off. Don’t throw rotten eggs at me, but when I started working with various advertisers I quickly realized that when I need to do a job my brat would be the first to be seeking attention. I am writing this because I felt extremely disturbed when I read in some blog about how they would get all upset with their kids because they’ve got work to do, and then they start shouting at the kids. My heart goes out to them because this is not healthy.
I get a fair amount of work from all my advertisers, but I also make sure that even if there were opps dropping I would never ignore my kid, nor scream at her. Like i say, I am no saint, but I consciously make sure that this does not happen because my kid catches on easily and she might get the wrong idea, thinking that money or my online job is more important than her. That cannot be farther from the truth because nothing is more important than my brat.
Money is important, I am very sure, to just about anyone and everyone but one has to really weigh the consequences. Do you really want to bring up your kids thinking that you are a mad man or woman? Or put fear in your kid’s mind and heart for $10??? My kid is very sensitive, she can sense when I am sick or upset or grouchy because I didn’t get enough sleep. And they DO understand more than they let on.
I’m no saint, once again I tell you, and yes, sometimes I feel like screaming at my brat, but I make a VERY conscious effort never to shout or scream at her because I don’t want my brat to grow up fearing me or thinking that she is inferior. I don’t want her to feel that she is less important than my job, the money or anyone else in my life. So here I plead to all blogging mummies and daddies to please consider your position and see yourself thru’ your kid’s eyes. Do you see an ugly, mad and loud crazy person in your kid’s eyes..?? It is not too late to change now! YOU can do it and make that difference in your kid’s life and eyes. I know you love your kids and that money is important but you can make the right choice.
Am I glad i’m not over-whelm by blogging.
Comment by Vien — March 31, 2008 @ 3:40 pm
I guess the best approach is not to depend on the blogging money and to blog for fun. The moolah just comes by the way. Then one will not feel so uptight about losing opps.
Comment by sesame — March 31, 2008 @ 9:40 pm
I’m glad that I somehow have found a balance and making my priority right. I’m certainly less crazy than I used to be. (Not to say I ever really screamed at them when I’m rushing for datelines)
Comment by Elaine — March 31, 2008 @ 11:10 pm
thanks for this reminder
I used to get very irritated when mine puts up a fuss but I’ve learned a lot from you on how to make the right choice 
Comment by mommy to chumsy — April 1, 2008 @ 12:36 am
I don’t “work” at home so I don’t get disturbed in that way in but other ways, like when I am cooking or when I am replying to emails… The urge to scream is there because we are impatient beings, who want to do what we are doing without being interrupted.. but thanks for reminding us.. It’s good to get reminders like that.
My elder girl is extremely sensitive to mood changes too… when I am not happy, she will not come near me.. She knows when to keep quiet.
Comment by JoMel — April 1, 2008 @ 1:54 am
I also want to add, that mothers are humans too, so they cannot be even tempered.. children though ideally should be exposed to all things good, will have to learn that people do get upset and angry.. and it’s also good that they learn to be empathetic towards other people’s feelings. What do you think?
Comment by JoMel — April 1, 2008 @ 1:56 am
Family (kids) always come first!
Comment by Janice — April 1, 2008 @ 3:40 am
I never do my work esp paid post when Jayden is around. Cos when i am at home, i’m 100% his mami.. and he is 100% dadidi’s boy..*sigh*
Comment by sasha — April 1, 2008 @ 5:50 am
great reminder. i didn’t shout at my rascal, but i should admit shamely that i ignored his needs to play with me. but now that i am not doing so many opps, you know wat? the feeling is great
Comment by Sweetpea — April 1, 2008 @ 10:59 am
Good reminder! Now when my gals want my attention, I stop for 15-20 mins and read to them or let them rule my computer. Once their love tank is filled, they will stop bothering me. Easier this way!
Comment by Shireen — April 1, 2008 @ 12:24 pm
Guilty as accused. LOL. I hardly do any paid posts these days and even if I do, it is usually not when I am at home. Though I must admit, maintaining so many blogs still overwhelms me. Thanks for the reminder though.
Comment by Immomsdaughter — April 6, 2008 @ 10:38 pm