September 13, 2005
Online Relationships
A older customer was in yesterday late afternoon just to ask me about online relationship. I guess he did know that i met my brat’s daddy online. Hahhahaha!!
Now what ppl do not know is, my online relationship went on for a good 6 yrs before we met up. Ours didn’t just happen like in a lightning flash, nor was it puppy love or jumping into bed kinda relationship.
Anyhow, i gave whatever i know to our customer and cross my fingers for him for not all online relationship will work out. Plus it is a very huge gamble too, since either one needs to fly to a foreign country .. to meet up. But anyone wanting an online relationship needs to know that … even when you do meet and decide to stay together.. it is still an uphill task. For the cultural differences, the being so far away from your family and friends .. and of course.. the food, can create a huge sense of discontentment in some after some time, or when the dazzle begin to fizzle.
So yes… in any relationship .. it will work.. if you work at it.
I have to admit that my spouse is most tolerance to my nonsense, for i can be really strange at times. If not for that tolerance.. i doubt we would be still together.
So for those who wants to go into an online relationship.. be prepared to get a crazy partner like I, be ready for someone who is very opiniated like I, be also willing to shower alot of love to your partner for he or she is so far away from home and loneliness can bring out the strangest emotions in a person .. be it a man or woman.
Bottom line is : Go into the online relationship with your eyes and ears open. And money should never be an issue in your relationship, meaning NEVER send money to your online partner. Well, unless you have been together online for at least 6 yrs.
i talked to mike for about 4.5 years before we finally met up. i think that the friendship that developed between us is what helps the relationship now. i agree with you totally.
some people are serious about their online relationships, others just want to hide the real them…sad.
anyway you and i are both lucky to have met good men
Comment by stef — September 13, 2005 @ 7:49 pm
hey I met my spouse on-line too… errr not really on-line as in messaging, but by e-mail. some sort of ‘you’ve got mail!’ kinda start
however the courtship didn’t start until after one-year he came back home from where he was studying…
Comment by domesticgoddess — September 13, 2005 @ 10:06 pm
wahhhh great to see both of you working hard to make things happen. congrats
Comment by babe_kl — September 14, 2005 @ 12:11 am
I met my ex online too and we had a great relationship for almost 5 years. Had to part ways cos of personal differences. But hey! We are still great friends so all is not lost.
Online relationships should be taken with a pinch of salt. Especially nowadays when people are so nasty. Always better to be cautious then to suffer. Hope your customer finds someone sweet!
Comment by Rathi — September 14, 2005 @ 1:03 am
Dennis and I met online 6 months before actually seeing one another. We got married one year later. We have been married for almost 6 years. I agree with what you said. Dennis also has to tolerate my emotional nonsense. I get emotional due to missing home and such. However I never regret making the decision to be with Dennis.
Comment by Phan — September 14, 2005 @ 1:26 am
Hey..Stef,
Yes.. i agree with you totally too. We did find good men.. we are indeed blessed..!
Hey..DG,
I didn’t know yours was online too..!! love story leh..???
Hey.. Babe,
Thanks..! gotta make things work coz’ got my little brat ma.. hahah!!
Hey..Rathi,
Sorry to hear that yours didn’t work out..
I’m glad to hear that you are still friends although it can be hard to be friends with an ex.
And i too hope my customer would be able to find someone good..
Comment by Big BoK — September 14, 2005 @ 2:30 am
Hey.. Phan,
wow..! 6yrs of marriage.. that’s so cool..!!! mine’s only 4.5..
yes.. i know how about the emotional part of missing home..hahah!! but like you, stef and DG.. we all are truly blessed..!!
Comment by Big BoK — September 14, 2005 @ 2:31 am
well I didn’t meet my hubby online but our courtship did kick off over AIM. And the internet was VERY important during our 2.5 yrs of long distance. =) Anyhow, I think it’s great whenever an online relationship works out because the entire process of getting to know the other person is not based on appearances but on the words and thoughts expressed over the internet. =)
Comment by gracie — September 14, 2005 @ 3:32 am
Yes..you are right.. Gracie and like you said.. the relationship is not based on appearance .. which i know some men do. Sad right..??
Comment by Big BoK — September 14, 2005 @ 4:11 pm